This is a book about Conscious Sexuality.
Why don’t we freely discuss or celebrate sex?
Have you ever said “No” when you meant “Yes”?
Have you ever cheated or been cheated on?
The sex god is a thorough and sacred investigation into sex, love, authenticity and freedom. It’s an explicit and passionate love story that will challenge your conditioning around sex. Follow Ben from innocent boy, through painful infidelities and onwards into deepest Tantric Love.
Men you will be understood and confronted.
Women you will be challenged and adored.
Our guilty, shameful and fearful relationship to our sexual energy is the cause of pain and harm through all of society. We live in a world with billions of sexually repressed women, billions of sexually damaged men and millions of people addicted to pornography. Something has gone wrong. There has never been a better time for us all to take a good look at the assumptions that we make about our sexuality.
Sexual energy is immensely powerful.
What if you could be the master of it?
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"Finally, a man dares to stand up and expose his vulnerability, his pleasure, his pain and his power in relation to sexuality. By standing naked before us, Ben shows immense trust in the potential for the human spirit to embrace transformation. He shows us the world through the eyes of sexual yearning, sexual licentiousness, porn addiction, and the sensual worship of women, no matter what her age. He offers a clear path beyond sexual addiction. This book stirs the deepest longings of the heart, to be free, to love and to know ultimate ecstasy." ~ Mahasatvaa Ma Ananda Sarita, Tantra Teacher and author of Tantric Love & Divine Sexuality
** "Overall, this book has the potential to be a massive cult favourite; with books such as the 50 Shades trilogy becoming firm favourites with the masses seemingly overnight, there is no good reason that this novel could not be the next big thing. It is well written, descriptive and adventurous, but not only that, it actually offers an insight into the realms of the human mind and how we deal with our animalistic feelings and desires." ~GoodReads Review
I think you wrote this so clearly, with so much authenticity, humility, compassion, selfknowledge and self love that it is healing and liberating not only to you but indeed to all who wish to read and learn with you. Beautiful, thank you so much. (FB)
*****"This book is a Must-Read!!! I could not put my kindle down! It has the gift of being supremely real, honest and truthful on every level. A superb account of one man's sexual journey, the inner and outer battles connected to it, and reflections from his now-tantric self. So his sexual stories are told from the level of the original experiencer (such as Ben the teenager or Ben the unfaithful husband) and then each escapade is then reflected upon with his tantric wisdom. It is so real, and so insightful. I laughed, I squirmed, I gasped, and I tasted every word as I digested this fantastic read. It is refreshing to find a tantric book that is not just another how-to book. This is a real man on a real journey. I want every man I know to read this!!"
***** "The author is right when he says that through this book Men will be understood and confronted. Women will be challenged and adored. Through open, sometimes crude authenticity the author takes the reader on a journey through his sexual evolution. It confronts the split between sexuality and spirituality that is so very present, and utterly damaging to our society. It is very inspiring and enlightening to see a unhealthy sexual expression - addiction actually - evolve into a profound, whole, and utterly satisfied connection with himself and his lover. From a female perspective, and I am being completely frank here, this book is heart wrenching and refreshing all at once. It opens up our wounds, lays them bare and then ultimately allows us to understand that we are enough for any man. Through love of self, sexuality explored and included, we find our wholeness." ~GoodReads Review
****"It is bold and daring hence I commend the author for his forthright, frankness as he does not mince words but tells it like it is. It gives the reader an insight into the areas of the human mind and how we deal with our animalistic feelings and desires. This erotic journey is for both genders and adult readers, who want to find out more about such a natural practice that dramatically affects the way we think and our emotions. We live in a world that is sexually repressed but also crude and vulgar too (such as pornography and prostitution), hence the author wants to assess what has gone wrong and examine all the assumptions that surround our sexuality." ~Amazon Review
*****"This book is an expression of deep devotion and love. With single minded concentration, the author has followed his desire for union with his own blissful nature. His ability to articulate conveys the depth of his years of experience... written from a foundation of personal spiritual practice and with the sensitivity,understanding and compassion for the (hu)man condition which is only possible from one who has trodden the path and is able to guide us through the pleasure and pain of relationship, from confusion to clarity." ~Amazon Review
*****"Wow...what a fantastic book! As a Tantra teacher, I have read many many books on the subject of sex and spirit. I loved how this one is a personal story and yet with a deep tantric perspective. This book is where the real meets the profound...gloriously. I loved the way Ben describes situations in his earlier days of sexual exploration, and then reflects back from his present-day, more aware, consciousness. It is delightfully open...he holds nothing back, and thus we have everything to learn from his experiences. I finished it and thought 'my god, want every man I know to read this.' Come to think of it, I'd like every woman I know to read it too! Yes, this book is definitely not to be missed!!!!" ~Amazon Review
***** "Ben sheds light in the dark corners of male sexuality where most women don't want to look. And for this reason it's a challenging read. But i felt held by his wisdom in exploring the difficult subjects of infidelity, insatiable lust and relentless sexual conquest. It's an intensley horny read and I often swung from hating Ben to desiring him. He is every woman's dream and every woman's nightmare. But his writing is refreshing in its honesty, and healing in its wisdom. I have more understanding, compassion and respect for men and their sex for reading it." ~Amazon Review
***** "Sex, such an important and ecstatic act and sometimes the definer of a relationship yet so misunderstood by so many of us in the Western world where our education of it often comes through school biology lessons, playground gossip and porn watched in secret. It's time to open the doors and look at it with warmth, curiosity and true passion and nurture it into what it truly can and should be. Here is one man's exceptionally open story of a huge variety of sexual experiences through his life from awkward school beginnings, experimentation, promiscuity, marriage and the mental anguish and frustration that accompanies it all in a world where sex is behind closed doors, real and metaphorical. Finally he finds open doors and walks through them into the arms of a liberated and transcendent experience of sex. This is a very candid and explicit book, and a freeing experience from the constraints of our limited and corrupted views on sex. It is particularly helpful if you wish to gain a better understanding of (and acceptance of) sex through a man's eyes." ~Amazon Review